After many years and much thought I have decided to publicly weigh in on a polarizing topic that is currently at the forefront of the news and social media, Abortion. Today I am choosing to publically be a voice for the unborn.
When you google “definition of abortion” it says it is “the deliberate termination of a HUMAN pregnancy, most often performed during the first 28 weeks of pregnancy.” Most definitions replace the word human with fetus or embryo which desensitizes people to the truth of what abortion really is, the ending of a human life.
My own life, and the life of our beautiful daughter Kelsey, which are both the result of unplanned pregnancies force me to be thankful and to value the decision to choose life regardless of the circumstances surrounding the pregnancies.
As a 17 year old girl I went to a Planned Parenthood in Wichita, KS for a pregnancy test. After I was told the results were positive I was taken into a room where I met with a lady who sat behind a large desk. The lady presented me with information for an abortion.
Democratic Presidential Candidate Senator Cory Booker is quoted as saying “It’s important for men to lead on this issue with women because this is an assault on human rights,” Exactly, abortion is an assault on human rights, the rights of the babies being aborted.
The decision I was faced with that day at Planned Parenthood wasn’t about my human rights. It was about the rights of my unborn baby who had no voice. As women we should not have the right to make the decision to terminate a life that is unable to speak for themselves.
My biological mother chose adoption for me and I chose to keep my baby. That is the choice we should get to make.
I was personally faced with abortion once again in 1992 during my pregnancy with our son Parker. I received a call from my ob/gyn after a routine sonogram. He told me that after looking at the ultrasound he saw an abnormality on our baby that would require surgery and it was also an indicator that our baby boy could be down syndrome. He forcefully suggested that I should get an abortion so I forcefully told him under no circumstance would I abort my baby. I went to another ob/gyn who reviewed the sonogram and found nothing indicating anything was wrong with our son. Several months later I gave birth to a completely healthy baby boy! My dad was the President of a Health Plan and the ob/gyn who gave me this false information was the Medical Director. I believe this was his attempt to attack my dads position on being pro-life and not being willing to allow the health plan to pay for abortions.
In 2008 I started a branch of Young Life called Young Lives in Wichita, Kansas where our team mentored and loved young girls and guys in the public schools who found themselves in crisis pregnancies. In 2010 Scott and I started a ministry called The Lady Bugg House where we offered a residential and non-residential program for young mothers and their children. My heart was to be a support for women and their children. Some of the young women we served had abortions but they found a team of women who loved them regardless of their decisions. Being pro-life does not mean condemning women who have made the decision to abort their baby. The great tension of being pro-life for me is making sure my message includes embracing women and men who have chosen abortion with the love of Jesus. However, I am unable to let the fear of being misunderstood keep me from being a voice for the voiceless, the 125,000 babies who are aborted everyday.
I woke up the other morning to this verse in Psalm 119:105 TPT which says, “Truth’s shining light guides me in my choices and decisions; the revelation of your word makes my pathway clear.” I am called to be a voice of truth on the topic of abortion.
There are women who have found themselves in similar situations to myself who have believed the lies and deception of medical professionals and abortion clinics that have convinced them that abortion is just a procedure to remove the embryo or fetus and placenta from the uterus. They are not informed about the emotional pain that follows abortion and the shame that silences women from being able to get the post-abortion help they need. Shame is never from the Lord! Shame is only a by-product of believing the lies of the enemy. We see clearly how Jesus embraces women in the story of the woman caught in adultery found in John 8. Jesus’ words to her were, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” As appalled as I am about the acceptance of abortion I am also appalled by the condemnation toward women who have experienced abortion. I love the words of Jesus to her accusers that precede His response to this woman, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” To every woman and man who has been condemned for abortion I am sorry. There are many organizations who will lovingly walk you through post-abortion healing.
The topic of abortion is making headlines but as I read some of the posts and comments that say, “I stand with women who have the right to decide what happens to their bodies” I’m in disbelief that the body of the baby is being completely overlooked as if it doesn’t exist. I am a voice for the voiceless. For the babies, like my daughter and son, who couldn’t speak for themselves. Every life matters!